Okay, so I took a few days off (more like a week) from this article that had been brewing on that post break-up behavior. We all know its takes more than two days!!!
In my wild excursions of rushing into time, and for the sake of distance here are the following accounts for DAY 2.
Ten Top Ways To Get Over IT-- Day two
1. Wake up and Pray!!
2. Start the day early and Pray-- update your myspace and blogsites.
3. Listen to comfort music in your car
4. Use your lunch hour to exercise or dance!
5. Stop avoiding his calls and emails (its okay to talk)
6. Stop cursing him on the emails (most likely you'll be apologizing for it)
7. Keep in touch with your friends (they're still checking in on you)
8. Laugh--Laugh--Laugh log in the the blogsite I HATE MY THESIS (because you understand the horror of time lost, procratination, and well, the beast of the matter-- it's someone else's turn to burn the midnight oils!)
9. Take time to think about your decision and contribution to the break-up
10. Accept closure, go see a great movie and finish that good book!
Break ups are difficult and often take far more than two days to rummage through. They're messy, they're hurtful, they're life altering pains, and sometimes... sometimes they can be therapeutic. For every beginning there is an ending and for every ending there is a new beginning waiting to unravel itself.
Embrace it, and be blessed in your new beginnings!! Try looking at the glass as half full. rather, than half empty.
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The Auteur and his friends....
27 March 2008
19 March 2008
I wish that you'd never forget the look on my face when we first met.
By Kate Nash "The Nicest Thing" Animation-
This is truly a different kind of song.
This is truly a different kind of song.
When "IT JUST AIN'T FITTIN" anymore....
We're experiencing some serious post break-up behavior in the office. In a conversation with my anonymous friends I have acquired the following information and helpful advice for people who are recently going through a break-up:
First, when coming into contact with these people it's good advice to know they're busy. Yes, I mean b u s y. Emails go unanswered, answering phones are shut off, missed calls are not returned (it depends on how close you are to the person) sorry, but it's the truth. As it turns out, being busy is the key to getting yourself through the pain.
A co-worker who shall remain anonymous made the following statement, " It takes two days. In two days, I'll believe it's over and then, I'll be over it." Wow, what an interesting way to deal with the unpredictables. Was she serious???
In her theory, the following has been recorded for day one at home.... will let you know what the deal is after day two.
Ten Top Ways To Get Over It-- When "IT'S NOT FITTIN" anymore....
1. Wake up, shower, get ready to start a new day, its okay to cry at this time, nobody's around.
2. Watch the morning news & listen to motivational music, its okay to cry at this time, nobody's around.
3. Spend two hours googling ancient sanskrit names for possible characters for a new novel, there's no real reason to cry at this point (researching and being a wimp at the same time isn't cool).
4. Spend one hour defending your favorite politician on utube (why aren't these people getting the main point?? Also, at least fifteen minutes is spent trying to be savvy when logging in for the first time with a catchy cool name) also, there's no real reason to cry at this point.
5. Email all your best friends with one email to let them know, "its over". Include at least your two best male friends, they can do the &@^!&=@ for you--all remarks through testosterone are acceptable from them at this point. Also, it's okay to cry at this point, you can trust these men.
6. Call your best friends back to let them know you're okay... the concerned ones will come over to see you at once, its okay to cry at this time, you trust them and their affections.
7. Laugh, Laugh, Laugh-- read the blog site I HATE MY THESIS and just laugh because you understand the horror of thesis writing in graduate school. No need to cry, you're having too much fun reading and laughing at someone else's misery.
8. Leach on to a friend's guest pass to go "work out" at the nearest fitness club (it may not be kickboxing, but on the first day of the break up, anything will do). Definitely no crying here.
9. Spend the next two hours shopping with a good friend. It's okay to make a shoe purchase. Its all good, no need to cry.
10. Be cozy at home and watch a movie you never watched before, it will take your attention off the rest of the day. No need to cry... the day is over, you made it through. Get on the phone and make plans to visit with other friends for day TWO!!
First, when coming into contact with these people it's good advice to know they're busy. Yes, I mean b u s y. Emails go unanswered, answering phones are shut off, missed calls are not returned (it depends on how close you are to the person) sorry, but it's the truth. As it turns out, being busy is the key to getting yourself through the pain.
A co-worker who shall remain anonymous made the following statement, " It takes two days. In two days, I'll believe it's over and then, I'll be over it." Wow, what an interesting way to deal with the unpredictables. Was she serious???
In her theory, the following has been recorded for day one at home.... will let you know what the deal is after day two.
Ten Top Ways To Get Over It-- When "IT'S NOT FITTIN" anymore....
1. Wake up, shower, get ready to start a new day, its okay to cry at this time, nobody's around.
2. Watch the morning news & listen to motivational music, its okay to cry at this time, nobody's around.
3. Spend two hours googling ancient sanskrit names for possible characters for a new novel, there's no real reason to cry at this point (researching and being a wimp at the same time isn't cool).
4. Spend one hour defending your favorite politician on utube (why aren't these people getting the main point?? Also, at least fifteen minutes is spent trying to be savvy when logging in for the first time with a catchy cool name) also, there's no real reason to cry at this point.
5. Email all your best friends with one email to let them know, "its over". Include at least your two best male friends, they can do the &@^!&=@ for you--all remarks through testosterone are acceptable from them at this point. Also, it's okay to cry at this point, you can trust these men.
6. Call your best friends back to let them know you're okay... the concerned ones will come over to see you at once, its okay to cry at this time, you trust them and their affections.
7. Laugh, Laugh, Laugh-- read the blog site I HATE MY THESIS and just laugh because you understand the horror of thesis writing in graduate school. No need to cry, you're having too much fun reading and laughing at someone else's misery.
8. Leach on to a friend's guest pass to go "work out" at the nearest fitness club (it may not be kickboxing, but on the first day of the break up, anything will do). Definitely no crying here.
9. Spend the next two hours shopping with a good friend. It's okay to make a shoe purchase. Its all good, no need to cry.
10. Be cozy at home and watch a movie you never watched before, it will take your attention off the rest of the day. No need to cry... the day is over, you made it through. Get on the phone and make plans to visit with other friends for day TWO!!
14 March 2008
Ladies First! Muchas Gracias Uni, Benny & Michael!!
Okay, so I have been brimming on this for more than a week and my co-workers have urged me to just let this one fly.
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Ladies, be encouraged by your strengths and believe in your natural ability to accept all the good things you have been blessed with in this lifetime.
For my awesome friend Universo, for the risk taker in Benny and Michael V. you men rock for being the romantic go-getters that you are! Keep on stepping out, reaching out, putting her first and you're sure to find the gem that is intended for you!
Ladies, you know we all loved Lancelot!!
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Ladies, be encouraged by your strengths and believe in your natural ability to accept all the good things you have been blessed with in this lifetime.
For my awesome friend Universo, for the risk taker in Benny and Michael V. you men rock for being the romantic go-getters that you are! Keep on stepping out, reaching out, putting her first and you're sure to find the gem that is intended for you!
Ladies, you know we all loved Lancelot!!
07 March 2008
upon meeting
St. Louis airport
meeting you is like coming home
after a prolonged trip away
I'm foreign again
diluted with distance
in between our in between lives
we've closed a thousand doors
blinked away a million thoughts
said a hundred prayers
about the maze of sanctum sanctorum's hell
and the storm brewing in the skies
the rain falling outside
your balcony doors and into the years
where we watch the storms hover
to cover our island skies
meeting you
is like coming home
still I am foreign once again
diluted with distance
but the butterfly inside me
has fluttered her wings
to the familiar scent
of your eucalyptus tree
one more time
from After the Rain, by Crystal Kill
St. Louis airport
meeting you is like coming home
after a prolonged trip away
I'm foreign again
diluted with distance
in between our in between lives
we've closed a thousand doors
blinked away a million thoughts
said a hundred prayers
about the maze of sanctum sanctorum's hell
and the storm brewing in the skies
the rain falling outside
your balcony doors and into the years
where we watch the storms hover
to cover our island skies
meeting you
is like coming home
still I am foreign once again
diluted with distance
but the butterfly inside me
has fluttered her wings
to the familiar scent
of your eucalyptus tree
one more time
from After the Rain, by Crystal Kill
29 February 2008
like Salem
like Salem
yes, I know you tried
said you were a friend
cloaked Baptist religion, thanked Jesus
and lied
from your stomach,
souled her thirst
to start a fire--a giant's jealousy
born a dark and bitter curse
the giant pounced
finally, a stitch who can stand me
daring to brand me
back stabbing ploys
willing to band me
another giant wrought
said she was bigger than me
with her coyish smile
heavier than me she piled the brie
but in Jesus' name, that fire
wasn't meant for me
my God say no, and gave me the rain
to wash off the hate,
the bitter rival that stained
'cause I was not born to bare her pains
Sista girl , I'm still alive
my God said no-- not like Salem
where your jealously
would've easily burned
and hanged'em
written by Crystal K.
yes, I know you tried
said you were a friend
cloaked Baptist religion, thanked Jesus
and lied
from your stomach,
souled her thirst
to start a fire--a giant's jealousy
born a dark and bitter curse
the giant pounced
finally, a stitch who can stand me
daring to brand me
back stabbing ploys
willing to band me
another giant wrought
said she was bigger than me
with her coyish smile
heavier than me she piled the brie
but in Jesus' name, that fire
wasn't meant for me
my God say no, and gave me the rain
to wash off the hate,
the bitter rival that stained
'cause I was not born to bare her pains
Sista girl , I'm still alive
my God said no-- not like Salem
where your jealously
would've easily burned
and hanged'em
written by Crystal K.
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Kiki's world has been created to allow bloggers to seek and recieve some kind and gentle advice from Kiki who is an expert on giving straight advice on various 'things of the world'. In Kiki's world, she knows everything. A very prominent and highly artistic Phoenician Sketch Artist is sketching a picture of her as we speak. Her column will feature on this site throughout 2008. Please feel welcomed to visit us and send us your questions!
Questions Posed:
Dear Jewel,
You can lock the doors behind you and hope she doesn't have the keys.
Good Luck with the lock!
thank you,
Kiki
Kiki's world has been created to allow bloggers to seek and recieve some kind and gentle advice from Kiki who is an expert on giving straight advice on various 'things of the world'. In Kiki's world, she knows everything. A very prominent and highly artistic Phoenician Sketch Artist is sketching a picture of her as we speak. Her column will feature on this site throughout 2008. Please feel welcomed to visit us and send us your questions!
Questions Posed:
Dear Jewel,
You can lock the doors behind you and hope she doesn't have the keys.
Good Luck with the lock!
thank you,
Kiki
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QUESTION: WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF ALL OF YOUR SHOE-STRINGS WERE GONE FROM ALL OF YOUR SHOES?
March 1, 2008 1:23 PM
I know you!!! I untied your shoes!! Okay, so you would go to Walmart and buy more shoe strings....(laughing)
thank you,
Kiki
QUESTION:WHAT HAPPENES WHEN YOUR
SISTER DRIVES YOU CRAZY?
March 1, 2008 7:35 PM